Whoa! LOL Jilly from Philly wastes no time… In a recent interview with Essence Magazine Jill explains that she only dates men for 6 months! Hey, I can understand that… I mean she has been married once, then engaged and now she’s currently single. At this point I’m sure she knows exactly what she wants!


With her most recent role in the Lifetime Movie “With This Ring” which I might add was really a good movie. It had me thinking about my relationships and what I really want out of them as well. On the subject of her role Jill Scott says…

“The movie made us all think about what we’re doing. For Regina and I, the two single girls, we really thought about what it is we want,”

Now what does she want? Jill’s character in the movie feels pressured to “complete” their lives by getting married within a year. She says she usually knows when she’s met someone special after about six months of dating.

“I’m older now so I see a little bit better than I did before. My longest relationships now are about nine months,” she said. “Actually, now it’s grown to six months. There’s no need for me to waste my time or anybody else’s. I know by then. If you make it over the six month hump, you have done something. I must really like you.”

Scott says that in order for a relationship to work, in addition to really liking the man in her life, she has to really like herself.

“You have to be who you are and you have to genuinely love who you love in order to have a lasting marriage,” she advises. “Getting married is one thing; staying married is something else.”

Great Advice…

– Empress ❤


Ask Haz: Are we JUST FRIENDS or is he JUST Playing GAMES?! | by @Haztv


Hey Haz,

I have a guy that wants to play the friend game but not by the rules, meaning he can go fishing but I can’t. How do I let a man know that once he says “we’re just friends” not to expect me to act like his girlfriend?


Ok since this is a follow up to a question that I’ve already answered I’m gonna save all the fake deep stuff and get straight to the point. When it comes to dealing with the opposite sex it’s always best to know what you want going in the door. Now it sounds to me like you would’ve been good with being his girlfriend had he said that but instead YOU let HIM set the tone of the relationship virtually allowing him to pick the rules. The reason he doesn’t want you “fishing” the way he does is because of what I told you before, men don’t like to share their pussy. You agreed to be just the “friend” but you didn’t come up with the idea. You probably were being faithful in the beginning and your relationship hit it’s “glass ceiling” so to speak and he came up with the friend line. Hopefully not after you applied pressure on him asking what your status was. Realize that if you only want to fish because he is and wouldn’t if he didn’t then ya ass is outta pocket. It’s all tit for tat till a bitch get slapped. If you want a relationship find you a nigga that wants a relationship. Stop settling for a piece of a man. Now if you really just want to be friends then like I said in the previous response tell that nigga to take the cuffs off. It doesn’t matter what he expects, he is a friend he has no say. If he can’t accept what a friend truly is then you have no option other than to charge him to the game or. Now stop asking me about this shit lol.


– @Haztv

@Haztv is the Co-host of Chunky Chickz Radio and an up and coming writer and social commentatorwith frequent blog contributions to #SoPhi & he will now be giving sound advice to the readers ofChunky Chickz World.
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Ask Haz: She Slept With Another Man After We Broke Up… Should I Take Her Back??? by @Haztv

Hey Haz,

I was with my female for 3 yrs. We broke up for 3months and I was trying to get back with her during that time but she Fucked another dude. We are in counseling and she’s very remorseful but I don’t view her the same. If you were in my shoes would you have taken her back? Should I still Marry her? Hylat cha boy!

Damn. Being a man I immediately feel the urge to say hell no but being an intellectual being I realize that this situation is much more complex than our emotions are suited for dealing with alone. Let’s analyze the situation real quick. On one hand you love her. You mention marriage so it’s obvious that you care for her on a serious level and you told me why you guys broke up (I won’t go into all of those details here)  so it wasn’t like it was your choice to begin with. She left you because things obviously weren’t going right for you guys and after some time she realized that you are the one she wants. On the other hand during that break she gave your pussy away. Now some would argue that you guys weren’t together when it happened so technically she didn’t “cheat” or do anything “wrong.” That’s hoe logic. The underlying issue here is really the double standard men have with being able to cheat and expecting forgiveness but their inability to reciprocate if the shoe is on the other foot. In the words of Gemma from Sons Of Anarchy “Men like to own their pussy.” Just the thought of another man penetrating “their” Queen is enough to turn most men cold forever as far as she is concerned. But let the same man slip up and fall in some pussy he will feel like he can just wash it off and everything will be ok. I can’t explain why we feel this way but I can be honest enough to admit that the logic is flawed. Now I can’t tell you if you should take her back based off of that because that is honestly a decision that YOU have to live with. If you can swallow your pride and accept her for who she is and not what she does then by all means I wish you the best of luck.

The reason I say you might want to reconsider is because of the additional information you provided in a separate email. You told me that you “wanted more sex” and it was one of the many topics you guys would argue about. I recently heard a quote that said “In marriage, if the sex is good it’s only consumes about 10% of the relationship. But if the sex is bad it becomes 90% of the relationship.” In other words if the sex is good then you guys can focus on everything else in the relationship but if it’s not that will be the main issue receiving all of the attention.If you guys were having issues with sex to the point that it caused you to fight about it instead of discuss it then that’s a red flag. One of the biggest problems couples have when it comes to sex is the lack of basic communication. Everybody expects everybody to “just know” how to please them but fail to realize that everybody is different. People ask the favorite position question and maybe the number of partners they had and just start fucking like they have a clue what the other person likes and dislikes. If you guys have never sat down and willfully had the uncomfortable conversations that are necessary in a bf/gf relationship then you have no reason to even be thinking about marriage. A relationship isn’t measured by the number of months or years that pass but by the amount of work the two people involved put into it. I say all of that to say this. If you guys didn’t have a healthy sexual relationship and she ended up leaving you and rejecting your attempts to come back then something tells me that she wasn’t completely satisfied (sexually or otherwise) and wanted to explore her options. She ended up meeting someone and felt the need to take it there. I can’t speak for her state of mind because I wasn’t the nigga that she gave the guts to. I can say that she regretted it afterwards and decided that she wanted to make things work.

It sounds like she is running from one problem to the next. Just because she came back that doesn’t mean that the source of your original issues are resolved. She came clean and told you what happened which shows her intentions are pure as far as her wanting to be open with you and try and move on together but I think it might be to little too late. She should have been open and honest from the gate. If she needed space and wanted to test the waters one last time to be sure then she should have just been honest and said that. By just doing it and THEN realizing that the grass wasn’t greener on the other side she has effectively tarnished the integrity of your relationship. She basically left you, shitted on your attempts to come back, fucked a nigga whose dick might have just been wack and decided to come back. What if she happened to sleep with a nigga that blew her back out? In the end I can’t tell you to stay and work it out or charge her to the game but I can provide you with a few questions you need to ask yourself. First is can you say without a doubt in your mind that you are knocking the lining out of her crabby patty? Is she sexually satisfied with you and can you fulfill all of her fantasies? Can you accept her for who she is and not view her differently because of what she did? If you answer no to any of these questions or can’t provide an immediate yes then you have some work to do. I wish you the best of luck my brother. Keep me updated

– @Haztv

@Haztv is the Co-host of Chunky Chickz Radio and an up and coming writer and social commentator with frequent blog contributions to #SoPhi & he will now be giving sound advice to the readers ofChunky Chickz World.
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Hey Haz,


Why do men play the friend game with us, they do what or who they want but expect us to act like their girlfriend?


Because you let us. I been drinkin that brown bitch so I’ma be blunt. A man’s gone be a man. That mean’s he’s gonna want to run the streets the way men do and come home to HIS woman. A man will understand that he has to share these hoes but will never want to share HIS woman. That means he’s gonna want you to himself but still be susceptible  to sampling some shone on the side. That’s what men do. It’s up to you as a woman to focus his attention and energy to help him elevate to his full potential. Now in your case you may have a problem boo. If the right woman comes around a nigga with any worth will claim her even if he has to get his life right  just to do so. Now if yall just wanna fuck and not claim each other then that should be clear. If he don’t know what a “friend” is then you need to educate him on the rules of the game and proceed to do ya thang. However if you want more than just a friend and are trying to do right but just ain’t getting the title then chances are ya pussy might be the problem. It’s probably good but it ain’t great.You the shit but you ain’t it. Ya coochie might just be convenient.  If that’s the case then you need to hit me up at for some 1 on 1 Confidence Coaching to help you elevate ya game to where it need to be. In the end if you make it too easy for a man he will almost always take you for granted and no woman likes driving home late at night with a soggy sac.

@Haztv is the Co-host of Chunky Chickz Radio and an up and coming writer and social commentator with frequent blog contributions to #SoPhi & he will now be giving sound advice to the readers ofChunky Chickz World.
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Hey Haz,


Ever been in love with a lesbian that ain’t know she was a lesbian?! That was me a year ago in Afghanistan she’s sexy but loves masculine things smh here’s the question that was a tangent, why are people attracted to people in relationships?! Seriously I’m feeling a broad that has a worthless nigga. I’m like two steps from fucking her brains out and giving her a taste of good dick and the good life. What’s a nigga to do?!

Thank God & Stay Humble


Aight nigga damn lol…. First things first, no I have never been in love with a lesbian that ain’t know she liked catfish.  Leave her alone she sounds like trouble. Now to answer your second and real question…. Why do people find themselves attracted to people in relationships? Its a few different reasons and ways I can answer this the first is the most obvious. People in relationships “tend” to “have their shit together” for the most part because if they weren’t on point to some degree nobody would want them. If she has a man willing to claim her as his own then chances are she is doing something right or has some qualities about her that warrant that type of treatment. Also we as humans naturally want the shit we can’t have so just knowing that a woman “belongs” to someone else will add to that level of intrigue and excitement about her. It becomes more of a challenge and as men we love the challenge . The real question is how do you know her nigga is worthless? Has she been telling you all of his flaws and painting the picture that he ain’t shit? If so then don’t be so quick to fall for that trap. A woman in a un- fulfilling relationship isn’t always looking to cheat. She is just looking for that fulfillment that she lacks. If he is knocking the lining out of her crabby patty and just not there for her emotionally and supporting her the way she feels she deserves then no matter what you say or do ur chances of hitting are slim. Women have a tendency to seek the masculine attention they desire from an outside source to fulfill their needs, but won’t fuck that man because to them that would be considered cheating. To me if she telling you all his dirt but still going home to him you gotta brace yaself for the possibility that you’re in the friend zone. You might be the nigga she can vent to, get a lil positive reassurance that she is attractive, still got it and can still get it and be the boost she needs to go back and deal with her ain’t shit nigga. Just remember for all the bad she tells you there is obviously something good she ain’t telling you that’s making her stay. My advice would be don’t invest too much time in her until you start to see a return on your initial investment. Let her know that she has an option in you but that you also have options and ain’t waiting around for her to leave him. Don’t throw salt on buddy no matter what you do, if she brings him up negatively try to shift the convo from him to yall… Instead of focusing on the bad he does try to get her to focus on the good you can do. Make it clear what you can bring to the table that she isn’t already getting and leave it up to her to make the right decision. Also you said you close to giving her the dick and giving her a taste of the “good life” nigga you better not be wearing no cape tryin to save a damsel in distress lol… Lemme know if you got any other questions and keep me updated on ya progress!




@Haztv is the Co-host of Chunky Chickz Radio and an up and coming writer and social commentator with frequent blog contributions to #SoPhi & he will now be giving sound advice to the readers ofChunky Chickz World.
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QUEENS CORNER: Can Facebook Really Ruin Relationships?

Most of us watch our significant others Facebook page, and we ALL know that chick who seems to get a little too friendly on his page.  You know leave that extra smile, wink, or has to comment on something every day.  Yea that one!  That one who he says “Babe that’s just a friend or classmate,”  “uh-huh whatever” is our response and the fight starts from there.  But are we just over reacting?  Is “that chick” really a threat or are we just insecure in our relationship? In other words, How much of an input does Facebook/Twitter & other social networking sites have on our relationships?  Can Facebook Really Ruin Relationships?


Welcome to Queens Corner a Feature Blog where  we will be discussing Sex & Relationships, penned by Weba “The Marketing Queen” of I Am Queen Enterprises.  A business whose sole responsibility is to build a professional network of women (Queens) who are the best at what they do.  “I believe every woman is a queen you just have to make it known.”  Queens Corner is a place where every woman can come & share their opinions and advice on topics that women face.  Whether its Relationships, Sex, or Life Experiences nothing is off limits, and I will always give my honest opinion and talk about my personal experiences as well.  I mean, what’s keeping it real if you are afraid to take it there?  I am also open to topics you want to see listed therefore we will feature a Dear Queen column where we discuss real life situations from my readers, so please email your letters to .  I will have a new discussion posted every Thursday so make sure you check me out every week.  Thanks, Chunky Chickz & I Am Queen Enterprises are looking forward to REIGNING with you soon.