Ask Haz: Facebook Etiquette For Relationships by @HazTV

 

Hey Haz, 

If you’re in a relationship, is it ok to leave comments for or converse with the opposite sex online? What is the appropriate social networking etiquette?

 

Nowadays it seems that there’s a common misconception that social media is the “devil” when it comes to relationships, and if you mix the two things will almost always  go bad. The fact is having this much access to our significant others daily interactions with other people is new territory for us as humans and its clear that we haven’t evolved at the same pace as our technology. We have acquired the ability to create and control our very own digital identities with access to anything and almost anyone in the world but have yet to acquire the ability to analyze and control our own feelings of jealousy and insecurity from within. The real problem here is by design, everybody is single online. No matter what you want to tell yourself, there is no room for a relationship on Twitter or Facebook. Social networking was not designed with relationships in mind. Now I believe a man or woman can flirt and carry on with tons of random people daily online, then log off to leave that world behind and be in a committed monogamous relationship in the real world. I know its possible because I’ve done it. The question here isn’t about the intent. If you’re with someone with ill intent then there really is nothing you can do about it. The problem most people have is when a partner’s online identity behaves as if he/she is still single. Most people wouldn’t expect to see their partner flirting and carrying on with the opposite sex in person so they don’t find it appropriate or acceptable when they see the same behavior online. The internet is modern day virtual reality.  Liking a picture is comparable to walking up to somebody and telling them you like how they look. So it’s only logical that “liking a bitches pics on Instagram will get you a boiling hot pot of water to the face” in real life, or so I’ve been told. In the end it all stems from jealousy and insecurity. Nobody likes to see someone else receive the attention they feel is reserved for them, and most people definitely don’t have a desire to share their significant other. However, to become obsessed with your partner’s timeline or activity tab speaks volumes of the level of trust you have for them in the first place. To answer your original question the only way to gauge what’s “appropriate” is for you and your partner to discuss it and make that determination for yourselves. Every relationship is different. You must first determine what you feel is acceptable then express those feelings with your significant other and hopefully their belief system aligns with yours. That’s really what it comes down to. Knowing what you want and finding somebody that wants the same thing. Me personally, I don’t feel like anybody should have to censor themselves for the sake of a relationship but at the same time if they are truly compatible they won’t have to.

 

@Haztv is the Co-host of Chunky Chickz Radio and an up and coming writer and social commentator with frequent blog contributions to #SoPhi & he will now be giving sound advice to the readers of Chunky Chickz World.
Hit him up at helpmehaz@gmail.com if you have a problem that you need help solving!  
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QUEENS CORNER: Can Facebook Really Ruin Relationships?

Most of us watch our significant others Facebook page, and we ALL know that chick who seems to get a little too friendly on his page.  You know leave that extra smile, wink, or has to comment on something every day.  Yea that one!  That one who he says “Babe that’s just a friend or classmate,”  “uh-huh whatever” is our response and the fight starts from there.  But are we just over reacting?  Is “that chick” really a threat or are we just insecure in our relationship? In other words, How much of an input does Facebook/Twitter & other social networking sites have on our relationships?  Can Facebook Really Ruin Relationships?

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Welcome to Queens Corner a ChunkyChickzWorld.com Feature Blog where  we will be discussing Sex & Relationships, penned by Weba “The Marketing Queen” of I Am Queen Enterprises.  A business whose sole responsibility is to build a professional network of women (Queens) who are the best at what they do.  “I believe every woman is a queen you just have to make it known.”  Queens Corner is a place where every woman can come & share their opinions and advice on topics that women face.  Whether its Relationships, Sex, or Life Experiences nothing is off limits, and I will always give my honest opinion and talk about my personal experiences as well.  I mean, what’s keeping it real if you are afraid to take it there?  I am also open to topics you want to see listed therefore we will feature a Dear Queen column where we discuss real life situations from my readers, so please email your letters to iamqueenent@gmail.com .  I will have a new discussion posted every Thursday so make sure you check me out every week.  Thanks, Chunky Chickz & I Am Queen Enterprises are looking forward to REIGNING with you soon.

 
 
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10 QUESTIONS w/ RON SLYDA

Ron Slyda a.k.a. “The COOL of the South” has created his own lane and is making a name for himself in the Miami Music Scene. His music is a breath of fresh air, with his witty word play, swag and charismatic flow Ron Slyda is a name that you’ll be hearing even more in 2012!!! Here’s 10 Questions w/ Ron Slyda… Enjoy!

When & why did you decide to pursue music?

I was always into music since the age of 5 its always been my love but I took the path of the street unfortunately and ended up in and out of jail and prison when I finished my last bid my best friend [RIP Eddy Moore] convinced me my talent needs to be used and I began recording in 09.

Which artists influence you?

If you look at my music you’d see mostly 70’s and 80’s Soul Music accents, my biggest influences are Bobby Womack and Tupac because I love how they were really expressing the joy and pains of life as they saw it. I also got inspiration and southern pride from 8ball & MJG, The Dungeon Family and UGK. But my rebel soul comes from dudes like NWA and DJ Quick

What’s one main message you want people to tune into?

That we gotta be ourselves, the only thing in this world that hasn’t been done is you, so do that live for love and beauty the paper should be a tool reach and cultivate those two things dig? Life is bigger then the paper chase way deeper.

In a perfect world, which label would be the place for you to sign to?

I always pictured myself on Maybach Music or Top Dawg Ent out West but the way the game going I’d rather be Indie with good financial backing because I don’t play about creative freedom and I hate to have my sound categorized. Who’s to say I won’t make an electronic pop track I need the freedom to push what I please to stay an individual and remain relevant. Go against the machine!

Where do you think you fit in with the music industry as a whole?

As a whole I’d be in the same light of other artist who have loyal but small cult followings like Curren$y. I refuse to make a track for the sake of blowing up. I do music cause I love it, I got a millon ways to get money, I take this serious.

Where did the concept of Blue Summer stem from?

I went thru a lot of changes in 2011 my crew [SMG] had gotten an explosive buzz in the streets and internet and things began to change. Everything but me, and as I began to reflect on all the work I put in, the trials, the tribulations, cases, the losses and lessons songs began forming out of those situations. Blue is a word I use to mean deep and high like the ocean and the sky, summer was the time because its like nothing else mattered digg?

What’s to come musically?

You can expect more vids I’m currently working with WorldStreamMedia getting my “brand” together. lol I didn’t know I was marketable. I’m also planning to branch out, calling in more features and working with new producers.

What was the best thing someone said about you?

Lol man I heard a lot of things that had me more inspired, one dude told me he wants my track ‘The Comet’ played at his funeral and this one time a chick told me her Mom is one of my biggest fans and her Moms like 50 yrs old. But the best comment for me is when people quote my lyrics on Twitter and Facebook I really digg that shit lol

Who is giving you advice about this industry and helping you navigate the biz?

Off the rip that would be the homey Ball Greezy,  most of my team is learning along the way because I rather have people round I can trust compared to people I don’t know.

What are the two pieces of advice that you would give to upcoming artist?

Never quit, when you feel like giving up your way closer then you think and open your mouth network you want to blaze a stage walk up on whoever run the joint with confidence and find out wat you need. Holla at every DJ every Blogger and every music enthusiast you can via social networks and old fashion street promo. Nothing is gon’ come to you, you gotta go get it!

Last Question: Any Last Words?

I wanna give a shout out to my team Rico Suave, Top Five, Kaine, Chris and my a2v2e family, everybody whoever put an SMG shirt on they back its a lot so I won’t name all y’all lol nikkisixx.com,  iblog126,  Streetconnect DJ’s, and all the people who considered me just another nigga spamming links y’all forced me to go harder too lol… Blue Summer on the way….I’m here Ron Slyda bitch!!!!!

Check Out Ron Slyda’s Latest Release “Blue Summer” off his upcoming mixtape ‘BLUE SUMMER:RECOLLECTIONS OF A POETIC DRUNK’

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